The costs of a b* mitzvah celebration are almost exclusively a function of values and priorities. Some families look at the higher end of what the occasion can cost, and wonder if there is a better value for the expense. Destination travel b* mitzvah is an option for families willing to dedicate the resources for this experience.
There are plenty of companies that offer Israel based b* mitzvah experiences. The upside is that each of them has a vetted and trusted network of ground providers. The downside is that many of them are exclusively for groups; you join a pre-set itinerary and agenda. A more personalized option is to work directly with a tour guide for itinerary and a travel agent for travel, transport (if needed), and lodging. You can work with your guide to determine the travel stops, and select the point for the b* mitzvah celebration. Your guide will have, or know, how to secure the logistical support needed for the ceremony, including a Torah scroll. A word of caution: vetting an Israeli venue is important, especially if you expect open seating vs. separation of men and women. If you have a connection with a rabbi in advance of your travel, connect the professionals for a planning conversation. Otherwise, ask your guide about providing appropriate rabbinic support for your ceremony.
Many of these same companies offer group “Jewish heritage travel” beyond Israel that allow for a Torah-based b* mitzvah celebration. It may be simple as being called to the Torah at a local synagogue, or can be an elaborate private ceremony. If the trip is not designed as a b* mitzvah focused trip, be sure to discuss how that will work, and connect with the local congregation that will be hosting you! In recent years, Italy, Spain and Portugal have been particularly popular European destinations for travel b* mitzvah. Be sure that you know the visa requirements of your destination(s)! Also, most European synagogues are orthodox. There is a growing number of mixed-seating synagogues, typically affiliated with the Progressive Movement (aka Reform in the US) or Masorti Movement (aka Conservative).
Cruise celebrations are also an option for many families. The cruise line sets your itinerary, provides food and lodging, and otherwise sets the frame for your travel experience. Your options for your ceremony are robust. You can take advantage of a day at sea for a service, or make arrangements in one of the ports of call for a celebration of your choosing. Your travel agent or cruise service agent will be your important connection!
Four Points to Keep in Mind:
- It’s not just travel, it’s b* mitzvah travel! Work the destination’s Jewish connection into the planning, as well as the student preparation. Study about a famous Jewish local, or other connections with Judaism the destination offers.
- Most synagogues outside the US are gender-divided. Congregations affiliated with the World Union of Progressive Judaism or the Masorti/Conservative Movement will be more comfortable to most American travelers.
- If cruising, remember to ask if a rabbi and Torah will be available onboard, and coordinate well in advance with any local congregations for options they may offer.
- Bring along your rabbi/cantor!