Coming of Age: Concierge B* Mitzvah
Opportunities without Limits
Families are increasingly looking to celebrate bar and bat mitzvah on their own terms, in their own way. Beyond that, many families are actively reconsidering the value of synagogue membership specifically for the transactional purpose of these celebrations. It is understandable. The three-year commitment most congregations require for each student means a financial commitment to a synagogue that can easily exceed $20K…for the first child. It makes good sense to consider alternatives!
Jewtique Concierge Rabbinic Services is specifically positioned to help families celebrate a Jewish coming-of-age ceremony that is fully customized for the occasion. Each family is expertly guided in the process of crafting the specific ceremony it needs. We start with no limits, and over a couple of meetings will define the structure and content of the ceremony. Each family’s unique needs and values are respected at every step of the way.
Here are the real questions most families want to know about:
Does it have to be on Shabbat? Your ceremony can be literally just about any day of the week in the morning, afternoon, or evening.
Does it have to include a Torah reading? Not at all.
Do you have access to a Torah if we want one? Yes.
Is Hebrew required? No; training with phonetic transliteration is an option.
What about a celebration that is completely secular, with no religious service? We can do that.
How will my student be engaged to grow through this experience? Great question! Some of the opportunities include recording an oral history of grandparents (if possible), developing and working on a project with their community service hours that is focused on bar/bat mitzvah, a reflection on the meaning of becoming bar/bat mitzvah that can be a prayer, poem, etc.
What about a devar Torah? Absolutely a devar Torah is one of the options students are guided to deliver. The question is, what type of presentation is best for any student? Creative and interpretive expressions are welcome!
Is tutoring included? Tutors for Hebrew performance will be needed. We have a list of trusted providers for you to consider.
We are incredibly grateful to Rabbi Greenspoon for guiding our family through such a meaningful and enriching b’nai mitzvah journey. Over the course of a year, he worked patiently and thoughtfully with our children, helping them grow not only in their Torah study, but also in personal confidence and spiritual understanding.
The ceremony itself was beautiful—personal, heartfelt, and inclusive. Rabbi Greenspoon created a space that honored tradition while also reflecting our family’s values. We felt supported every step of the way. We can’t recommend Rabbi Greenspoon highly enough!
— Jessica Dezzutti