Opportunities without Limits

Families are increasingly looking to celebrate bar and bat mitzvah on their own terms, in their own way. Beyond that, many families are actively reconsidering the value of synagogue membership specifically for the transactional purpose of these celebrations. It is understandable. The three-year commitment most congregations require for each student means a financial commitment to a synagogue that can easily exceed $20K…for the first child. It makes good sense to consider alternatives!

Jewtique Concierge Rabbinic Services is specifically positioned to help families celebrate a Jewish coming-of-age ceremony that is fully customized for the occasion. Each family is expertly guided in the process of crafting the specific ceremony it needs. We start with no limits, and over a couple of meetings will define the structure and content of the ceremony. Each family’s unique needs and values are respected at every step of the way.

Here are the real questions most families want to know about:

Does it have to be on Shabbat? Your ceremony can be literally just about any day of the week in the morning, afternoon, or evening.

Does it have to include a Torah reading? Not at all.

Do you have access to a Torah if we want one? Yes.

Is Hebrew required? No; training with phonetic transliteration is an option.

What about a celebration that is completely secular, with no religious service? We can do that.

How will my student be engaged to grow through this experience? Great question! Some of the opportunities include recording an oral history of grandparents (if possible), developing and working on a project with their community service hours that is focused on bar/bat mitzvah, a reflection on the meaning of becoming bar/bat mitzvah that can be a prayer, poem, etc.

What about a devar Torah? Absolutely a devar Torah is one of the options students are guided to deliver. The question is, what type of presentation is best for any student? Creative and interpretive expressions are welcome!

Is tutoring included? Tutors for Hebrew performance will be needed. We have a list of trusted providers for you to consider.

We cannot recommend Rabbi Greenspoon and Jewtique Concierge Rabbinic Services highly enough! He came recommended by two friends whose families had wonderful experiences with him, and now we understand exactly why.

From our very first meeting, Rabbi Greenspoon made me feel completely comfortable. I was not raised going to synagogue, my husband is not Jewish, and there was so much about the traditions and service that I didn’t know. Not once did I feel judged or out of place. Instead, Rabbi Greenspoon was kind, approachable, patient, and genuinely easy to talk to. He created an environment where we felt comfortable asking questions, learning, and being ourselves.

One of the things we appreciated most was that he encouraged us to make the service our own. He clearly explained what was essential and what was optional, giving us the flexibility to create an experience that felt meaningful and authentic to our family. He never made us feel pressured to follow traditions simply for the sake of tradition.

He did an incredible job guiding Zane through the entire process. He helped him develop his speeches, offered great public-speaking tips, worked with him on pronunciation, and gently kept us on track with reasonable deadlines—even though we started the process VERY late! During our zoom meetings, he knew exactly when to encourage a little more and when a child is ready to move on. He knew Zane was “done” before we did!

On the day of the service, his support was just as thoughtful. He sat behind Zane during his speeches and quietly whispered reminders to “slow down,” making sure Zane didn’t rush through his words and that everyone in attendance could hear and appreciate what he had to say. Those little details demonstrated just how attentive, supportive, and invested Rabbi Greenspoon was in helping Zane succeed.

One of our favorite parts of the experience was our conversations about the Torah. Rabbi Greenspoon asked thoughtful, engaging questions that sparked meaningful discussions and taught our entire family so much. We came away with a deeper understanding and appreciation for the traditions and the meaning behind the service.

On the day of the bar mitzvah, we received so many compliments from our guests about Rabbi Greenspoon and how much they enjoyed the service. It was warm, engaging, meaningful, and accessible to everyone in attendance.

This is how EVERY religious experience should be. Welcoming, inclusive, educational, personal, and filled with kindness—without judgment or pressure to be something you’re not.

We are incredibly grateful to Rabbi Greenspoon for helping make this milestone so special for Zane and our entire family. We look forward to working with him again (for our daughter's bat mitzvah...in a few years). If you’re looking for a rabbi who genuinely connects with people, makes the process enjoyable, and creates a meaningful experience tailored to your family, look no further. We would recommend him without hesitation!

— The Sims Family, Kauai, Hawaii